Friday, January 15, 2016

6 Topics You Must Discuss With Your Partner Before You Get Married (Must Read)

 A social media user with an interest in romance has shed light on stringent issues to be discussed by couples before getting married for a smooth and long-lasting union.
 I'm a relationship person. Though not married, but I try to learn a lot. Apart from choosing the wedding date, venue and caterer for your day, there are other deeper issues you both need to discuss with each other. Issues where you need to open up to your partner completely and let him/her in.
Not discussing these crucial issues before marriage might be unwise and may have repercussions later on in the marriage.

Here are the issues below:

(1.) Your past: 
 Have you told him/her about any negative or positive experience from your past that has a significant effect on your life? Your history can impact your marriage’s future. Allow him/her to be part of it and move forward as a couple. Do not let your past haunt your future.

(2.) Family obligations:
 How will you celebrate the holidays? Do you plan to spend Christmas at your folks’ house, and New Year’s Day with his family? Things as simple as these can spike arguments in the future. Lay all the cards down in terms of your financial obligations on each side. Are you okay with him allotting a certain percentage of his salary to his parents?

(3.) Division of house labour:
 When it’s just the two of you at home, hiring a helper may mean an unnecessary expense, so it’s only practical that you two discuss the division of house chores. If you really loathe washing the dishes, compromise that you’ll be in charge of cooking and table clean-up. If your man hates doing the laundry, volunteer to wash the clothes and ask him to be in charge of the clothesline. This way, you won’t hate each other, while maintaining the upkeep of your love nest.

(4.) S*x :
 Newlywed s*x is fun and exciting, but as you count the wedding anniversaries, one of you can sometimes overlook its value. Explain to him or her your expectations and limits, or how you two can maintain the spice in the bedroom.

(5.) Secrets: 
 Whether it’s something you did that you regret, a health issue, or a family secret, he/she deserves to know it. Also, since he’s basically going to be part of the family, divulging these details matter. It’s better that he/she hears it from you than from someone else.

(6.) Faith: 
 If you have different religions, say, he’s a renewed Christian and you’re a Catholic, confer with one another which church you’ll be spending Sundays at. Also, if you do plan to have kids, finalize what religion they’ll be following.
Writer: Agubush Menyo

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