Masturbation
is often used as an escape or coping activity for stress, anger,
loneliness, tiredness, fear and generally for s*xual satisfaction.
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Masturbation also known as self-s*x is the erotic stimulation of
one’s self s*xually. It is done with hands, fingers, a vibrator and
lubricants that stimulates one’s genitals for s*xual satisfaction.
Masturbation is addictive and very rampant too. It is an activity
few talk about but many partake in. Therefore, we shouldn’t shy away
from talking about it.
Although masturbation is often associated with males, it is performed by both genders.
Most people learn to masturbate during adolescence, but the number
of females who indulge in self s*x cannot be compared to their male
counterparts.
Masturbation is often used as an escape or coping activity for
stress, anger, loneliness, tiredness, fear and generally for sexual
satisfaction. Most people that indulge in this act can’t go a day
without masturbating.
Like any s*xual activity, masturbation helps release endorphins, a
chemical in the body that promotes a sense of happiness and can relieve
stress.
A study from Harvard’s Health Professional Followup also showed
that masturbation may help lower the risk of prostate cancer in men, but
you and I know honestly that men have not been masturbating all these
years because they want to boost their prostate health.
Unfortunately, not all of the possible side effects of masturbation are necessarily good.
Masturbation most times serves as a chronic way to avoid intimacy
with others, which can cause anxiety in the long run. Chronic
masturbation can actually change your personality.
S*xual intercourse between two people has many benefits for men and
women. It reduces blood pressure, promotes heart health and prostate
health. It also promotes companionship and creates stronger bond. But
masturbation doesn’t have all these health benefits.
You may argue that it is low-risk and you are not hurting anybody,
and it’s the safest form of sex because no one has ever caught an STD
from himself or made herself pregnant. But is it really low-risk
activity?
The risks involved in Masturbation very much out weighs the gains.
Signs of chronic masturbation include:
1. Extreme absent-mindedness.
2. Nervousness.
3. Deep desire for isolation, yet has feelings of loneliness.
4. Highly irritable or easily irritated.
5. Day dreaming.
6. Make excuses when it is sex time with partner.
7. Forgetfulness, and poor retention leading to difficulty in school.
8. Sadness.
9. Moodiness and depression.
10. Suicidal thoughts in some cases.
11. Generally pessimistic.
12. Extra sensitive to guilt, shame, and regret, low self esteem and poor confidence level.
Frequent masturbation can cause serious skin irritation. Forcefully
bending an erect penis can rupture the chambers filled with blood,
which can lead to a condition called penile fracture or swelling. Most
men will need surgery to repair it.
Masturbation and s*xual fantasy creates a major barrier to having
healthy and fulfilling relationships, because you become easily bored
sexually with your partner.
When it comes to having s*x with the man or woman you love, you end
up choosing porn, fantasy and masturbation over them. You just no
longer desire s*x with a real person.
Another effect of masturbating is that when you have prolonged
intercourse with your partner, you can’t experience orgasm. Most men
that masturbate often pull out of the woman, then use their hand with
the help of lubricant on their genital and in less than 2 minutes, they
are able to climax.
Females most commonly masturbate by stroking or rubbing the vulva,
especially the clitoris, with hands and fingers until orgasm is reached.
With repetition, your brain can learn to prefer s*xual fantasy and
masturbation to real sexual intimacy with your spouse. As a matter of
fact, your brain’s arousal circuit can become so dominantly wired for
self-sex that physical intimacy with your spouse or your partner becomes
increasingly difficult and eventually impossible. Your partner is left
hurting, rejected, replaced, betrayed, and deceived.
Most men and women who are s*xually potent but masturbate suffer a
form of s*xual impotence towards their partner. This s*xual impotence is
a situation where they have increasing difficulty getting aroused by
their partner.
They believe they give themselves better pleasure than any other
person does. Giving up on s*x with your partner because of self-s*x
means it is time to consider seeing a s*x therapist.
You can overcome masturbation because the human brain is neuro
plastic, meaning it is moldable and changeable. Behaviours can be
learned and unlearned and replaced with healthier ones. Individuals can
get to a place they are able to enjoy healthy sexual intimacy in a
long-term committed relationship.
Make an earnest resolution to overcome masturbation. Remind
yourself always that you will not die if you don’t self-sex. Learn to
not isolate yourself from people and when in the midst of people be very
present minded.
If you are addicted to masturbation, avoid pornography or whatever
thoughts that arouses such desires that will ultimately lead to self
s*x.
When it comes to having s*x with your partner, be mentally and
psychologically present, encourage him or her on how to help you enjoy
s*x better with them.
Be prayerful if you believe in the efficacy of prayers. Talk to a
psychotherapist for professional guidance. Always remember you are in
charge of your mind. You can stop masturbvating if you desire.
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