There is a school of thought that
obscures the true meaning of trust in marriage which has consistently
undermined the significance of the institution.
While some believe that certain
secrets can only be shared after many years of marriage as trust is a process
which takes time; others believe that trust must be anchored in a relationship
right from the start.
There are certain secrets you
should never keep from your spouse and when not shared, they may eventually come
to light and destroy your intending marriage or the marriage you have been
nurturing for years.
IDENTITY
The truth is: trust is having faith in
your spouse enough to be able to share your feelings as well as your secrets
too.You are unique because you have your own identity, your own strengths and
weaknesses too.
Do not change your
distinctiveness, be proud of who you are by learning and understanding your own
personality and your own talents, which will help your spouse and others relate
to you.
HEALTH
Health, they say is wealth, and right
from courtship, it is significant to discuss your families’ health history so
that you can both be aware of the different conditions within your family
settings and how they can affect your own individual health.
When you are able to share your
health issues, you are more likely to find support right from the start and
also someone to lean on when you are not strong too.
ADDICTION
Openness can bring many good tidings to
your marriage because it embraces love, empathy, honesty and understanding.
Everyone has a bad habit but unfortunately some are worse than others, which
can eventually lead towards an addiction.
If you have been down the rough
lane in the past or still battling with an addiction, it will not be in your
best interest to keep it to yourself alone as its effect in the end can be
devastating for yourself and the family in general. The probability of
overcoming your addiction is higher when you are able to confide in your spouse
and seek his/her support as – a problem shared they say, is problem halved.
ABUSE
Abuse is a very grievous matter which
often has an adverse impact on the victims, leaving them feeling dishonoured
because they have been violated and exploited. A spouse who has experienced
abuse, either as a child or an adult, may often have hallucinations which can
affect their personality and ability to enjoy a good life and marriage, to say
the least.
Abuse can leave a lasting scar if
you allow yourself to carry the burden and pains alone; it can also be very
difficult to share your feelings, especially if you have been sexually abused.
Think about it, your spouse will never understand what you’ve gone through and
how to support you if you don’t speak out.
FINANCES
Marriage is a union of two individuals
complementing one another and not competing with one another. You can only
enjoy a great marital relationship when you are both honest about your finances
and able to plan together towards your financial goals. Irrespective of who is
working and who is not, be honest and transparent about your finances so that
you can have a healthy relationship for the rest of your lives.
When News Breaks Out, We Break In. (The 2014 Bloggies Finalist)
