A
social media user with an interest in romance has shed light on
stringent issues to be discussed by couples before getting married for a
smooth and long-lasting union.
I'm a relationship person. Though not married, but I try to learn a
lot. Apart from choosing the wedding date, venue and caterer for your
day, there are other deeper issues you both need to discuss with each
other. Issues where you need to open up to your partner completely and
let him/her in.
Not discussing these crucial issues before marriage might be unwise and may have repercussions later on in the marriage.
Not discussing these crucial issues before marriage might be unwise and may have repercussions later on in the marriage.
Here are the issues below:
(1.) Your past:
Have you told him/her about any negative or positive experience
from your past that has a significant effect on your life? Your history
can impact your marriage’s future. Allow him/her to be part of it and
move forward as a couple. Do not let your past haunt your future.
(2.) Family obligations:
(2.) Family obligations:
How will you celebrate the holidays? Do you plan to spend
Christmas at your folks’ house, and New Year’s Day with his family?
Things as simple as these can spike arguments in the future. Lay all the
cards down in terms of your financial obligations on each side. Are
you okay with him allotting a certain percentage of his salary to his
parents?
(3.) Division of house labour:
(3.) Division of house labour:
When it’s just the two of you at home, hiring a helper may mean an
unnecessary expense, so it’s only practical that you two discuss the
division of house chores. If you really loathe washing the dishes,
compromise that you’ll be in charge of cooking and table clean-up. If
your man hates doing the laundry, volunteer to wash the clothes and ask
him to be in charge of the clothesline. This way, you won’t hate each
other, while maintaining the upkeep of your love nest.
(4.) S*x :
(4.) S*x :
Newlywed s*x is fun and exciting, but as you count the wedding
anniversaries, one of you can sometimes overlook its value. Explain to
him or her your expectations and limits, or how you two can maintain
the spice in the bedroom.
(5.) Secrets:
(5.) Secrets:
Whether it’s something you did that you regret, a health issue, or
a family secret, he/she deserves to know it. Also, since he’s
basically going to be part of the family, divulging these details
matter. It’s better that he/she hears it from you than from someone
else.
(6.) Faith:
(6.) Faith:
If you have different religions, say, he’s a renewed Christian and
you’re a Catholic, confer with one another which church you’ll be
spending Sundays at. Also, if you do plan to have kids, finalize what
religion they’ll be following.
Writer: Agubush Menyo
When News Breaks Out, We Break In. (The 2014 Bloggies Finalist)
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