Life
is not a video game, but there are still some tried and true ways you
can impress your significant other. Check out some tips on how to make
your girlfriend love you even more than she does now!
When News Breaks Out, We Break In. (The 2014 Bloggies Finalist)
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What can make your girlfriend love you more? Here are some practical tips that will help you.
1. Listen to what she has to say. It might seem
obvious to many, but some people still manage to miss this simple but
crucial step. If you are having a conversation, really listen to her. Do
not just pretend to listen and then make excuses as to why you did not
hear her last sentence.
According to the old Russian saying, ‘women love with their ears’.
However, women also appreciate being listened to. Even if she just has
to vent about her annoying co-workers, pause your work and offer a
sympathetic ear. We guarantee that it will not go unnoticed.
2. Compliment her. Women do love with their ears,
so a well-timed compliment will do wonders for your romance. Do not
focus only on appearance, although occasional mentions of how good her
hair looks are important too.
Play to her strengths, compliment her on things she is most proud
of. It can be a promotion, a successful meal, a win in a marathon, or
anything she worked hard for. You can also try to reduce her personal
insecurities by saying how much you love them and appreciate them for
making her who she is.
3. Ask her advice. Almost any person loves being
helpful and important. Your girlfriend will definitely appreciate it if
you ask her help in resolving a difficult situation. This tip would work
great if it is her area of expertise. However, it might be hard to
think of what to ask the PhD of Quantum Physics. What is the meaning of
life, maybe?
4. Be her support system. Every woman needs
someone she can turn to when things do not go her way. In this
situation, that person is you! If you see that she is upset about
something, ask her about it. Nevertheless, do not press if she refuses
to answer. Simply say that you are there when she needs you. Eventually,
she will tell you, and you can figure it out together.
5. Do not be afraid of her tears. Many people feel
very uncomfortable when they see open displays of intense emotions. But
if you want to be the best partner you can be, set your feelings aside
and offer your shoulder to cry on.
6. Leave the past in the past. Unless your
girlfriend initiates the ‘ex talk’, do not ask her about her exes. You
do not need to know who she was with before. You should only care about
the relationship at hand. However, when she asks you about the people
you used to date, do not compare them to her. Describe them as if you
were describing one of your friends.
7. Have a good relationship with her family and friends.
It does not mean that you have to be best friends with all of them. Be
as nice as you can, even if your views on life are incompatible. If you
absolutely hate all of them, try to limit your communication with them.
Do not make your girlfriend choose between you and them. It is an unfair
choice, and you will most likely loose.
8. Surprise her. This encompasses all of the
cutesy romantic behaviour you can think of. Leave cute notes around the
house, plan surprise dates, or show up at her workplace during lunch
hour. However, make sure that she likes surprises beforehand. Do a
‘trial run’ in a safe environment or just ask her outright. Because
nothing is worse than an unwanted surprise.
9. Treat her. This does not necessarily mean you
need to spend ridiculous amounts of money just to please her. Make her
favourite meal, take her to her favourite theatre, or massage her feet
when she gets home. Little things like that will work better than any
words. Although occasional big gestures like a luxurious romantic trip
for two will be great for the both of you.
If you live together, do not think that she has to do all the
housework. Divide the chores between you, and if she works more than
you, offer to take over her responsibilities.
10. Give her space. You do not have to be together
24/7. Even though it is your partner we are talking about, you have no
right to control her in any way. Let her have her moments of solitude,
encourage her to hang out with her friends.
A good loving relationship should be built on trust. This means
that you two can have your separate lives and still love each other
immensely. Staying apart for a while will do you both some good. In
those moments, try to calm your jealousy. Do not look for signs of
cheating if they are not there.
11. Be yourself. This is the most important part
many people forget about. If she is your girlfriend, it means that she
already loves you. You do not have to jump out of your skin and demand
the impossible. Just be the nicest version of yourself you can be. As
long as you are a decent human being, she will love you with all you
strengths and weaknesses.
These are all very generic tips. If you want to know what will
definitely work for your girlfriend, why don’t you ask her? There is no
definitive guide to how to make girls love you. Every woman is
different, so do not be surprised if your typical wooing fails.
When News Breaks Out, We Break In. (The 2014 Bloggies Finalist)
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