Although
many women don't joke with the idea of marriage at all and are in some
cases, in a haste to settle down, these are certain things they should
take note of before tying the knot.
When News Breaks Out, We Break In. (The 2014 Bloggies Finalist)
For women, some things can be learned over time, with a lot of
experience. Others can be easily learned while some can be learned by
simple observation. Marriage is one of those things that no matter how
long a woman studies or observes it; there is always something new for
her to learn.
When it comes to marriage, no woman knows it all but there are some
things every woman should know before they get married. These things
can also be applied during marriage as well.
Your husband doesn’t want another mother
Don’t go into marriage with the belief that you are your husband’s
mother. He wants a partner, someone to be by his side supporting him and
someone he can support too. You might be tempted to tell him what to do
or nag him, but avoid that temptation.
A lasting marriage is made up of two forgiving people
Even after you marry the best man in the world, he will come with
imperfections and faults, and you also come with imperfections and
faults. Learn to move past hurts and forgive him for his shortcomings.
Learning to forgive quickly is a necessary skill for a marriage that
will last.
Passion actually never has to fade
Yes, there will be times when you feel gross and tired and that
passion and romance is the last thing on your mind. But make the effort
to keep the passion alive in your relationship because you and your
marriage will be grateful in the long run.
Be aware of unrealistic expectations
They can be harmful to you and your husband’s lasting happiness.
Forget all the unrealistic expectations you have about how your marriage
should be a fairy tale. Marriage is hard work.
Respect your husband
Nothing will make your husband feel more honoured and loved like
the gift of your respect. He won’t necessarily admit it, but he really
needs it. But don’t forget that you need respect as much as you give.
You are human too.
Don’t expect your husband to fulfil all your needs
Your husband is just one person who can’t be expected to be
everything you need in your life. Balance is important in all things
including the relationship with your husband. Maintain your friendships
and family bonds even as you get married.
Be realistic about romance
Don’t get caught up in romantic movies and novels, they can distort
your view on what real romance is. You should find out how your husband
wants to be loved and give him that even as he loves you too.
Don’t compare your husband to anyone else
Comparison is just never a good idea, especially when it comes to
your husband. Love and appreciate the man you have. The grass is not
green on the other side in all cases. The grass is green where you water
it.
There really is no smooth marriage
You and your husband may face totally different trials or victories
than any other couple you may ever meet, and that’s perfectly okay. The
important thing to remember is that you and your husband will face them
together, hand in hand.
Understand that the world doesn’t revolve around you
This is not to say that you are a selfish or self-centred person to
begin with, but marriage takes the whole selfless thing to another
level. And at times, it can be a difficult but necessary lesson to
learn. Being selfless is one of the ingredients of a happy marriage.
When things get tough, don’t give up
Unless it is abuse, infidelities or illegal activity, don’t look
for reasons to give up on your marriage. But don’t let your husband get
away with disrespecting you and the vows you took. Infidelity is a deal
breaker. When hope is alive and well in a marriage, it helps it to
thrive and grow no matter what is thrown at it.
Make your husband and marriage a priority
Remember at the end of the day who you come home to. Put him first,
because he puts you first too and you are now his family. Don’t allow
people walk all over your husband or disrespect your union. Remember to
make your marriage a priority.
Find joy in the little things
You know that inside joke that you and your husband have that
almost makes you pee your pants every time it’s mentioned? Or the way he
kisses you goodnight right before you fall asleep? It’s in those little
moments and all the rest that you can find joy and happiness in your
marriage.
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Via The Sun News
When News Breaks Out, We Break In. (The 2014 Bloggies Finalist)
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